A 6 WEEK TRAINING COURSE FOR CARERS & SOCIAL WORKERS
Therapeutic parenting is a relational, nurturing way of being with children who have been abused. neglected, have attachment difficulties or have experienced developmental trauma. Over time this helps the child to self-regulate, build new neural pathways in the brain and repair the relational patterns that are often passed from one generation to another. It offers a different way to understand what the child is communicating, how the carer is impacted by the foster child and how to make sense of it so that the family can effect change.
Much of the latest research available suggests that children (and adults) who have experienced abuse and neglect are triggered into using heightened survival strategies as a way of trying to keep themselves safe (even if viewed from the outside, it puts them at risk). In this activated state, the prefrontal cortex (thinking part of the brain) goes offline and it then becomes impossible to be rational and/or think clearly.
As the attachment system is laid down in the brain and body before the child can speak, they often don’t have the language to explain or understand what is happening to them.
- What is therapeutic parenting?
- Why traditional parenting doesn’t work
- How the brain and body of the infant develops
- What happens when babies experience neglect and abuse
- Self-regulation for the child and the adult
- Attachment styles of the child and the adult
- How that impacts on the style of parenting needed and which style has the best outcomes
- Connecting and remembering what is ‘missing’ in the child’s development
- Reward and punishment and the Empathic Behavioural model alternative
- PACE and how to apply it
- Repairing ruptures in relationships
- Building attunement and finding ways to spot and interrupt potential ‘flashpoints’
- What does the child need?
- How the drama triangle works
- Making links for the child so they can begin to understand their story including issues such as: their race, ethnicity and culture.
Ongoing Support Groups help the carers to embed the knowledge and put the ideas they have learned into practice with issues they are dealing with at home
As a trainer and tutor, I try to find playful and creative ways to explore different (and sometimes complicated) concepts and reflect on what the individual's experience is rather than focusing just on the child. I find that this helps people make sense of the child’s inner world and why they may be reacting in this way.
One to one sessions
Sometimes, the carer(s) may have been struggling for a while with the way a child is reacting in the home or school. This can activate the carer(s) coping strategies and lead to repetitive patterns that become entrenched. If this unhealthy dynamic is not interrupted it can have a negative impact on the child, carer and/or family and may result in the placement breaking down. In these sessions, I aim to support the carers to make sense of what the child is trying to communicate, help them to understand their own reactions and find practical solutions for the carers to practice.
BESPOKE TRAINING FOR SOCIAL WORKERS ON THE BRAIN BASED, TRAUMA INFORMED THERAPEUTIC FOSTERING APPROACH.
Being on the front line in Children's Services, Adoption and Fostering is a stressful and busy life. Understanding the philosophy of the therapeutic approach enables you to grasp what the carers are learning and trying to put into practice. It is useful for the training I deliver for foster carers to be revisited in order to ‘embed’ the ideas and strategies into their way of being with the children. Like everything new, we need to practice it until we feel confident we can do it on our own. Working together in this way creates a holding 'container' to support the children, the carers and the team around the family.
Alternatively, it can be used as a stand-alone course for you to develop new skills to support you in understanding the carer(s) and their habitual responses, as well as the relational dynamics between carers and the children in their care. It can also be a valuable tool to use in the process of assessing the carers in the Form F process and/or annual review.
Some examples that can be covered in the course include:
- How can I understand why the carer is acting in a certain way and help them to deal with the child differently?
- Why traditional parenting and the reward and punishment model doesn’t work for traumatised children
- Current research in attachment styles
- What goes on in the brain of a developmentally traumatised child
- Spotting the unconscious ‘invitation’ of the child to recreate the relational dynamics of the birth family
- How does the unprocessed trauma impact the family and the social work team
- Self-regulation and flight, flight, freeze responses
- Intergenerational trauma and shame.
- The importance of the working with difference so children can build a coherent story of their lives
- Blocked care and secondary trauma
Clinical Thinking Sessions
These are incredibly useful in unravelling the unconscious dynamics which may be being played within the system surrounding the child. The unprocessed trauma in the child, the birth family, carers, social work and teaching team can create very powerful relational patterns or situations that are difficult to 'spot' or think about. Sessions are focused on surfacing unconscious material so it can be reflected on and acted upon in a considered and thoughtful manner.